Love, Lust and the Web they spin

Recently a couple of my friends and I had got into a "comments spree" on Facebook. This involved 3 single guys debating on the values behind one movie. Inspired by its contents, another friend (status = committed) rained in with his cupid-quotes. You might have guessed right, the topic involved "girls" and the debate was whether the movie really portrayed "Love". The movie we started off with was a recent tamil chick-flick "Vinnaithandi Varuvaya". Long story short, our debate ended with a consensus, concluding that majority of the YIA (Youth Impacted by America) folk in Tamil Nadu (my hometown in India) donot distinguish between love and sheer lust. This prompted me to think deeper and so, in accordance with the purpose of this blog, here goes...

What is love? I guess pondering this question will open a whole new can of worms. But, the thought that strikes me when I think about the word, digresses into a sexual arena. Is this right? Isn't there more to it than what meets the eye. Take this sentence for example, "I love my friend". Am I (mis)using words out of context ? I beg to disagree. Isn't love a feeling of sense, oneness of thought and expression, care and compassion to one another? If I am right, from when did the contexts change, and why ? I blame the dictionary for it all. Webster says, "Love = attraction based on sexual desire". This is just one of many interpretations of the word, and I think we(the youth of the 21st century) tend to take what we feel right and leave the rest for alternative representation. Shouldn't the above definition of love equate to "lust" ? Confusing as it is, are we rightly differentiating these words...

"Love is the gravity that keeps relationships in motion" forgive me for the cliche, but I think it really makes sense.... How do we differentiate and prioritize relationships based on this love that pulls us all together? Which is more important? A (lover-boy) friend of mine, said "when you meet that special one, you will smell life differently and that is when you start thinking with the heart, the mind goes dumb, and nothing else matters". Hmm... something expected of one in love. Inspite of being an strong advocate of family values, I have to accept some truth in the above statement. Again, I take it with a pinch of reality-salt. I argue against the latter part of that statement - "nothing else matters". This is why.... Assume ones family is a solar system, and gravity(=love) keeps all the planets(=family & friends) together and in motion. When we find a new planet that forms a perfect union with the existing solar system, do we substitute the Sun for it ? Wouldn't it be right to give it due mention in the system around the "same" sun. Enough of astronomy... How is it that one new person(though special in a million ways) can substitute existing relationships ?

I reiterate my argument by looking at the whole relationship affair in a new perspective. This time a chemistry lesson. Assume a single guy is a hydrogen atom with only one electron in its outer orbit. It is unstable (like any youth looking for a partner) it requires an additional hydrogen atom to cause stability. It is this hydrogen that can form water (the elixir of life). But then can it exist in solitude, and even if it does, is it useful... rarely yes! I ask myself, would I like to create water and make myself useful or live in solitude with mere self-stability. Isn't water a better answer to that question? Think about it, you meet a special someone, that someone has a loving family, and you have one that loves you too. The two (hydrogen atoms) here, would play the role of bringing together the two families as ONE forming water(=elixir of life). Family(including friends) IS the elixir to life on this planet, and the cause of all civilization. Why not build a bigger and stronger family through the love that has made you a new person, or as my friend would say, "smell life differently". Is love the culprit here, or are we.... who misunderstand its real intentions and the strength it builds within us ?

Lets all love, with all our hearts and all our soul... love like there is no tomorrow. Lets all build one bigger and stronger family of loving homosapiens. Lets not substitute but add to our family the new special someone, and inturn be added into another. Lets not forget our friends who have been there through thick and thin, but again collectively strengthen and build a bigger network.

I end with another cliche...
Isn't 11 > 1 ? All it takes is, two 1's to come together.